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Your Relationship And Unhealthy Competition.

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Your Relationship And Unhealthy Competition.


It's not unusual to see people comparing their relationship to that of friends or colleagues. This is very unhealthy no matter what angle you are seeing it from.

To start with - the person you are comparing your situation with might be in a worse one actually, you are only being told what you need to hear and not the actual picture of their situation.

Also - what works for Mr. A may not work for Mr. B. The fact that you think your mate is having a better relationship than yours does not mean that their partner might be better for you or their modus operandi can be applied to your relationship.

Unnecessary exposure of your situation does not help anyone but it complicates the matter, you are now not only the center of gossips among friends but now you are more confused with various suggestions and advises from different quarters.

When you and your partner eventually sort your issues out, you have to deal with your friends and family disrespecting your partner - they wouldn't have known anything if you hadn't sold your partner cheap during the trials.

No doubt that when we humans are stressed out, we seek for consolation in third parties as it's understandable that the one over the fence can see the situation better. And the fact that they are not a stakeholder in the relationship they might be in a position to analyze the situation better without being biased. However, this is usually a validation of what we already know - no matter what the third party says, there is a high chance that you would go ahead to do your wish.

You can't have it all. What your friends are having might not be the best for you. Cherish what you have and protect it - it's all yours.
The easiest path to happiness is to transform what you have into what you want. Make your relationship work for yourself without wishing it to be like that of Maria or Alex. There is usually more to the story than what you see.

An attempt to wish for someone else's life is a direct way to lose your dinner while protecting your breakfast.

Be in the know that many are after what you have just as you are looking over the fence for something better . Embrace what's yours and make your house into a home.

Be your own competition.

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