The Positive Outreach

 The Art Of Love.   Love is a beautiful thing, provided the other party shares your feelings and they are the right person for you. It is a selfless act. The very moment you start caring more about someone else’s best interest over yours and prioritizing them, then my dear friend you are in love.

Your Desire And The Society. No matter what your desires are, they are just ordinary wishes until you do something about it. Wishing it over and over again won't have any effect.

Your Relationship And Unhealthy Competition. It's not unusual to see people comparing their relationship to that of friends or colleagues. This is very unhealthy no matter what angle you are seeing it from. To start with - the person you are comparing your situation with might be in a worse one actually, you are only being told what you need to hear and not the actual picture of their situation. Also - what works for Mr. A may not work for Mr. B. The fact that you think your mate is having a better relationship than yours does not mean that their partner might be better for you or their modus operandi can be applied to your relationship. Unnecessary exposure of your situation does not help anyone but it complicates the matter, you are now not only the center of gossips among friends but now you are more confused with various suggestions and advises from different quarters. When you and your partner eventually sort your issues out, you have to deal with y

Clean hands and dark hearts. The one acting as a friend might not necessarily be a real friend. If only we humans can see beyond the faces then we would understand that the smiling one is not usually a happy one. The fact that you see someone as your best friend does not mean that you are their best friend. A handshake usually comes with a motive but what motive? It could either be a harmful one or a friendly one but the truth is both come from a "friend". The easiest way to catch a man is via a close ally like a family member or a friend. Jesus Christ was sold out by Judas, one of his trusted disciples. If Jesus Christ can fall easily to such betrayal then who are we, ordinary humans? Look around you, anyone you see as your enemy today was once your best friend. In other words, your friend today is only an enemy in training. For an enemy to succeed in their plans, they require some information as a weapon which can only be provided by a "friend"

         ANGER = DANGER They say even the nicest people have their limit. It's alright to get angry now and then but when your anger slips into the next day to the point of wishing your fellow human misfortune then that's dangerous. There is only one letter missing from both the word "anger" and "danger ". It takes only one action or word to cross from one to the other. That action or word could either ruin your day or someone else's day if not life! Nothing good or positive can ever come out of anger - you could lose a friend, family or a loyal lover as a result of your temper. Identify it's an issue and work on it. An African adage says " The moment a mad person realizes he is mad then he is no longer mad".  Most of us would be better as a person and in extension, a better use for the society but this act of anger is destroying us bit by bit without realizing that fact until we are at that point of no return.

CHASE YOUR DREAM. This may encourage someone. How do you manage to look so young?  Trust me, I am not young to start with I just happen to love myself. You are not capable to love anyone else if you are not in love with yourself.    Stay away from drama and anything that stresses you, less alcohol and more of water. Why bother about things you can't change or have power over? Worrying over issues drains you. People you surround yourself with plays a major impact in your life. If they're not adding values to your life drop them. I do not drink, smoke or get worried unnecessarily. I can have a heartbreak earlier in the day and still party on the night of same day. That doesn't mean I am heartless or not in pain I just embrace changes and move on easily without holding on to grudges. It drags you down and blinds you. I learnt in a hard way hence the experience. I so want to be like you. Mentor me. I am glad I am able to inspire someone but I need to be f

You Are As A Result Of Your Surrounding. Do you know you are who you are because of the people you surround yourself with? If people around you are full of negative vibes, the energy gets to you and before you know it you are one of them.  Choose wisely who you hang out with as they can either make or break you. The choice is yours. Friends, partners, work colleagues, neighbors and family members play important roles in our daily lives. We interact with these set of people every day and their actions and vibes does reflect on how we live our lives.   There is an old proverb among the Yoruba clan that says "If a leaf wrapped a soap long enough it becomes interwoven into the soap".  Don't be part of somebody else's life, be in control of who you are and define your person. Surround yourself with the same set of people you are on the same mission with. A leopard doesn't roll with a mouse. Not too late to re-evaluate and re-assess your

Happiness Is A Choice. Are you upset and downcast because someone insulted, maltreated or disrespected you? If insults could kill, Donald Trump would be dead! But he is in the White House instead as the free world leader. No matter the situation you are in, get yourself a bottle of wine and shake your butt to some tunes while singing along. Being sad and miserable won't change a thing but leave you worse off. Life is for living and happiness is a self-made choice. One doesn't have to be rich or be loved to be happy. If you have failed once dust yourself and try again. It's not about why you failed but if you are able to get up and overcome that failure. Now get that headphone out and get in that mood - life is hard but none of us would get out alive !!

Trust In Yourself. When you are in deep-shit and can't figure a way out. Your first step towards resolution is realizing the fact that only you can solve that problem and the - 2nd step doesn't go about discussing it with every Tom, Dick, and Harry-they won't do jack about it and yet compound your issue by spreading the news and possibly adding what not. Bad news travels faster than success that's because everyone is interested to hear you fall, sharing it with anyone and everyone only help the carrier. That same energy you use in feeling sorry for yourself and telling others that don't give a damn about your predicaments-use that same energy towards solving your problem. No one can know if you haven't eaten in days if you don't share it. As a troubled young man, my mother once told me you are safer speaking to your image in the mirror than speaking to your brother or me as you won't betray yourself. That makes a lot of sense as I get ol

      Life Is Like A Bike. Fear to take that step? Afraid you might fail? What are you afraid of? Guess what failure is linked to success. Without failure, you can't achieve success nor recognize what success is. You lose nothing by trying! You lose everything by not trying! Let me take you back a bit. Remember how you struggled to learn how to ride your first bike? The challenge that comes with it and the fear of hurting yourself and that shame of being seen by your peers on the street? And yet you eventually conquered the fear and end up riding that same bike for leisure and performing stunts with it.

Human path. The present world population is about 7.3billion with an average annual growth rate of 1.09% - out of this population you are just 1 out of billions and your path crossed with the person next to you right now. This simply means no one matters more than the next, for the job you are lucky to have there are billions of people that would replace you and same goes to that relationship you complain a lot about, sorry to burst your bubble you are so replaceable. My point being - cherish whatever you have, a bird at hand they say is worth thousands in the forest. While you are sulking and murmuring over that job you don't like as that's not what you want but yet it picks the bills - there are tonnes of people that want that job as a lifeline. Your partner is not perfect, he or she is this and that - work on it and make it work for you, the grass is not always greener on the other side. If a wall is not cracked there won't be any access for reptiles

Your Name As Your Brand. Do you wonder why your name is different to your siblings or your friends? Only one reason - identity! In an average home , our parents knows what each and every one of us is capable of, if anything is missing in the fridge they know which child is fond of eating in-between meals, they know that young one that comes home late and they know who to call on when the TV is left on for too long . They will never attack A when B's action needs to be addressed. That's an identity that comes with each and every one of us. How worthy and valuable is your identity in the community where you live? Food for thought yea? Every step and action you take count towards your brand. Do you like fighting in public? How nice! Do you love gossiping amongst your friends? Thumbs up! You are good at stealing what belongs to other people? oh ok! You have the skills of snatching other people's love in the name of fun? No problem! Just to call yo

Corporation's and Individual's Dream. All manufacturing and service provider companies have two things in common, they are in business to make a profit and they are advertising massively to outshine each other in the same market aiming similar consumers. These companies no matter how popular their products are in the market and the sales metrics soaring - they never stop advertising to attract new customers.  Take Apple as a company into analysis here. Apple is the richest company in the world not just in the brand but in cash. This company has the financial chest power of about $240b and still growing, with such cash reserve you will expect them to sit back and allow Samsung do their thing.  The point here is no matter how fat your bank balance is, no matter how many properties you have. You just can't afford to stop working harder than previous, you not only need to maintain that momentum and remain among the elite but it's also important to mitiga

Honoring our women on International Women's Day. A woman will make a home out of a house, a woman will turn a quiet house into a home full of laughter and love from your kids, a woman will support you when you are down, she will feed you when you are hungry and comfort you. The women around us play important roles in every sector of our lives, and the society at large. Your mother gave birth to you and nurtured you, your sister was there as a mini mother watching you from going astray, your female friends protected you from the Cougars, your girlfriend stood by you through those tough times, your wife still cooks your meal even when your pay-check stopped coming and believed in you. I am a product of a do it all by yourself mother who acted as a father and a mother, my messenger, my masseuse, my comforter, my nurse, my teacher, my motivator, my carer, my cook and my life coach. I know the struggle you all have to go through daily as a woman. To the single

Prayer without action is powerless and a road leading nowhere but ruins. I am not a religious person but I am a believer, not many people can tell the difference. I have nothing against religion; however, there must be a defined line between being religious and being stupid. Prayers do get answered, I know as I am a living testimony. When you start leaving everything to God to handle while you sit on your bum then that's pure laziness. Sleeping in the church or mosque doesn't make you a righteous person neither does that guarantee you a front seat in heaven. There are no 99 virgins for anyone that blow him or herself up on earth - common sense; you can't find a virgin in your village how much more in the city and now heaven? You can't even ask girls out! It's no rocket science! Any religion that preaches killing another man is not a religion; if yours do then you need a new religion if necessary. You don't have to be in a Church or Mosque fo