Love vs Lust: Any difference?

Love vs Lust: Any difference?

There is a massive difference between Love and Lust and it’s usually easy to get confused over both. We humans mostly get carried away accepting lust from the other person in form of “love”.

Lust is in no way related to love – not by any means. Lust is a physical attraction, driven mostly by sexual desires. It’s usually very intense, wild and fun but unfortunately, without the involvement of the heart – it’s all about the body!

Whereas, Love is all about having a great interest, passion, and pleasure in or towards someone. A Strong feeling of affection is involved here. This involves giving yourself wholeheartedly, without a question to another person with the intention of being with them not for the moment but for a long time if not forever.

Many might not understand this part – if you are dating someone and you see each other as lovers but you are not friends. There is no other way about this. This is just Lust and not Love – no matter what angle you are looking at it. For any relationship or marriage to work out, you can’t avoid being friends.

When you are in love, your partner is the person you want to share everything with, you can’t decide on a color or design for your shoes or clothes until they have an input. Your partner becomes your co-gossiper, your best friend, soulmate, and twin.

Sex – as soon as you are satisfied, you do not care about your lover's satisfaction and you just want to jump out of bed for a shower without cuddling. Nah – the love zone is far away from this relationship. It’s a first class and unadulterated lust.

When you are in love, you don’t have sex but make love – their arms is where you want to be, you wouldn’t care that you are dirty or they are because that person is all you want and you are fine with their body condition or odour at any hour of the day. They farted – you won’t be bothered but call them names and laugh it off. You can be in the shower while they are having a poo – all in the same wash room.

Feelings – by all standards if the other party is finding it difficult to discuss how they feel about you or avoiding it at all cost. May be there is nothing to express. Lust is residing here – if you are in love you are over-comfortable with that person and free to do and say just about anything to them and for them. 

While in love, watching your words or actions is never happening – you are just yourself. Both sweet and sour moments are being shared. You are not afraid to be yourself and say it even when you are dead broke.

Physical – If you or the other party's interest is more about the looks and the size or shape of the body parts then, unfortunately, that relationship is on a time bomb. To be with someone simply because they have a massive ass or the other one has lovely lips, these are all temporary as their real personality would come in view in a matter of time and alas you can’t stand it! But when you are in love with the personality, looking beyond the look or any physical attributes and be attracted to the inner person – now you are seeing and relating with the person no other being can see and this type of relationship do last longer if not ever. It’s always better to go after the internal beauty over what you can see like every other person.

If it’s all about the sex for you or the other party and yet no conversation on how you spent your day or what your plan for the next day is – then you don’t need anyone to point it out to you that it is what it is – pure Lust. You can be in love and still have an amazing sex life.

When you are in love, it’s mostly about the quality time you spend together. You just want to create memories and sex is never the top of the list but the journey towards making love. While having a chat or hanging out with a loved one, it’s common to lose the track of time as you are deep into a fantasy world with this person and they are all that matters at that time and nothing else.

With Love – the happiness of the other party becomes your happiness. You just want to see them smile even when your world is not bright either. They become your priority and you will go out of your way to see them well.

Motivating your partner to be and do better is now part of your plan naturally. You now think for two rather than just yourself. You want to be part of their career and life; you encourage them to aim higher, do better at work or college – all these are because you started playing and seeing the idea in your head of having a future with them. Now you become very possessive positively – that person is all you want and you want them for yourself alone by all means.

Before you say Jack, you are getting close to the family of your partner. You now ring the parents or siblings without going through your partner. Now that is Love that’s looking to stay – Lust on the other end will disconnect and ignore any opportunity to get connected to the family. Because you are simply not what they want and the way the society is designed, family plays a role mostly in the choice and acceptance of a partner – once the family accepts an official partner then you are stuck with making it work.

If your gut says it’s not right then there is a chance that it’s not right – most people are not bold enough to admit to your face that it’s Lust they simply hide under the banner of Love until you figure it out.

So – is your relationship just a Lust or an actual Love?