Friendship Management!

When you have 10 friends, you will identify their individual capacity, ability and weak points.

Mr A is unreliable, do not count on them on your most important day. In fact, they shouldn’t be in the picture.

Mrs B is a chronic liar, that’s not who you should listen to about your mutual friends.

Dr. C is very awful with money management, this is certainly not one to keep your savings with or go into investment with.

Mr and Mrs D are racist, why bother to invite them to a party or gathering where they won’t be comfortable and embarrassing you is as sure as seeing Satan in hell.

Mr E is a loner who never pick his calls or call others. Absolutely no reason to be upset but respect who they are.

Miss F loves her parties every weekend, that’s not who you want to plan on babysitting your kids.

Mr G has an attitude of lending with no plan on repaying, do not hand over your upcoming rent to them either.

Mrs H is a shopaholic despite having a very limited income, you won’t be borrowing them your credit card “temporarily”.

Prof I is not good with time, they are not a good candidate to serve as your witness in court.

Our friends are from different backgrounds and what’s acceptable in a certain community is rude and shocking in the other. It’s our place to learn about our friends characters and attitudes then adjust to protect our friendship.

All the examples above are good friends, they are not bad all round and that’s why we refer to them as friends.

It’s all about identifying weakness and strengths then allocate boundaries as applicable.

You will have a better relationship and healthy friendship with your friends if you actually know who they are and respect them for who they are.

No, you can’t change a thief! or change someone who is not capable of keeping a secret . You will keep your gold and silver locked away and not tell the other one your secret. It is that simple.

Don’t lose a good friend because they are not perfect just as you are not either.

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